[benwantsfun]

I am a good looking guy, good job, up for a laugh and fun to be around. I have lots of friends and I often sleep with beautiful girls...the trouble is they all seem to be total pshycos or married/involved! I really want something that lasts longer than a night, but i must be very picky or something as my mates have all said that such and such is perfect blah blah and yet i am not interested. I have looked and responded to lots of ads on gumtree but most of them are bullshitters who just want to charge me for web-sex. I have never paid for it in my life, and i don't intend to start now!! any nice genuine girls who are up for a laugh with no alterior motives - just maybe want to go for a drink and see how we get on? Would love to hear from you. looks aren't that important, I am more interested in yourselves - if you can have a laugh with me and talk openly then i would want to meet/chat on msn or something. I am not interested in one night stands, i can do that shit whenever i want. I really want to meet the woman who will change my life! open to all offers.... :lol:ps i know i said looks aren't important, and i don't think they are, but just for the record, i am a very good looking guy, aged 28...not that it should matter!!

[LKC]

[benwantsfun]

what do you mean, someone to assist me? You're not a dodgy dating agency, are you LKC? It just seems so hard to find like minded people. everyone seems to have some alterior motive or strange, almost 'bunny-boiler'- like tendencies!!
maybe you and i should get to know each other some more....xx

[Sarah*]

Ooooh I feel like I've walked in on StreetMate...without Holly, the street and infact a mate

Scrap that then...

[Miss Bitch]

Streetmate was better when Davina did it.

FACT!

[Sarah*]

Agreed!

[longstayer]

Why not get along to an on line dating agency or a speed dating meet? That way you can suss out the girls without any pressure on either side. Gumtree is just like Loot on line, its full of poor quality ads ,timewasters and,as you say, fakes and bullshitters. There will be no quality relationships to be had on here.

[Krissy]

I know loads of girls who are attractive, funny, professional, independent and NOT bunny boilers and we (yes - me included) find it impossible to find any men in the same position who are looking for a serious relationship.

I've come to realise that I will never meet a decent guy when out on the town having a few bevvies. So where are we all supposed to find eachother?!

Gumtree ads are just weird but extremely funny! Dating websites, well in my experience don't seem up to much. Any suggestions?

[longstayer]

[Krissy]

... to find a guy who has the right qualities would be a start. Now that is impossible to find. I just wish I could be a lesbian - it would be so much easier I'm sure!

[Equinox229]

hey krissy,

m not sure u wanna be a lesbian if u realised how difficult it is to get a genuine girl... lol )) and the Mars v/s Venus arguement continues...

as far as genuine girls are concerned, i think they are either endangered or extinct species...

endangered coz they get messed up by some men who give the whole male tribe a bad name

extinct coz there may be none left....

oh n if therz ne genuine ones left, please get in touch (just one of you is fine).... I am a genuine man too...lookin for some love and commitment ))

cheers

RS

[PAJ26]

It's very hard to find any decent women out there. I'm 26 and have been looking around on a few dating sites. The women I've seen there all seem to have endless lists of qualities their ideal guy should have. When I see ads like this it just puts me off completely. On my ad I basically just said I was looking for a nice girl about the same age, and thats it!
It's all so bloody confusing. WHAT DO YOU WOMEN WANT?
I'm not a bad looking bloke ( I think? ) and I'm fairly intelligent. I have an easy going personality and know how to treat women right. So why have I been single for 7 YEARS!!!!!
It's driving me nuts ( and swelling my nuts ). I don't drink so therefore don't go out to pubs or clubs much, and it's hard to just stumble across a woman in the course of your daily life. So I'm left with the net, and this brings me to my final conclusion; You Chicks Are Crazy!!!
So come on girls don't be offended. It's just my frustration boiling over, I need some help!!!! Any perspectives, male or female are welcome.

[Miss Bitch]

Honestly, I haven't a fucking clue.


I would be a bit concerned about someone who had been single for 7 years though.

[PAJ26]

I did'nt intend to stay single this long it just turned out that way. Guess I'm not very good at meeting people and have had other things on my mind. It's not like I'm a phycho with a collection of womens heads hung on my wall. ( Honest!!! )
Anyway looking at your profile I'm a bit concerned about your diet. Squirrel shit may be o.k in moderation, but you should really eat some nice healthy veg ( or at least eat the squirrel as well for protein! ) as well.

[dior_addiCt]

hey decent girls are not endanged or extinct... I guess the pblm is they fail to get noticed !! If a girl IS decent and is looking for a meaningful relationship.. guys jus seem to eXpect a LOT more than a platonic relationship for a start. Unless you can relate to a person at an emotional level its hard to make it a solid or a long term relationship! Long term is more than mere physical attraction, ofcourse there should be physical attraction and some chemistry goin on.. to hit it off. But, trust me most guys donot have time for that - understanding a girl at an emotional level.. !!! Ive been singl for 5yrs now.. and Im telling u out of experience.

[amanda140]

hi there r u still intrested in talking to a nice girl if so u can contact me on msn amallia85@hotmail.com

[petrebelz.com]

My son was 6wks old when i became single , that was just over 2 yrs ago & ive been single since . Im not nor ever have been " just a shag " . My opinion on men has changed soooooooo much , i dont think genuine men exist either now , I struggle to get out or do anything at all without my son being there as nobody looks after him but me , So the pure chance of a night out is a rarity in itself, As soon as men find out you have a son they turn on there heels & run , they just dont want to know . Im 26 in a few wks & have resided to the fact i'll stay single . Genuine men dont exist in my eyes , I dont want romancing its to cheesy , I dont want materialistic things im not cheap , I dont want your house i live with my son ,I dont want your car i dont drive either , All i want is a nice person , fab sense of humour & who actually doesnt mind having to stay in coz ive no sitter ... somebody who doesnt mind a few beers & a greasy kebab , and someone who wont tut & moan when i watch crimewatch or pet programmes & i sit there booing lol
I dont watch girly films , I like action & mmmmmm bruce willis ha ha .

Is it really that much to ask ? Well of course it is coz men want a size 6 dumb blonde who cant understand her left from right but hey she looks good yeh ?

Anyways ... im in agreement there is no genuine men who want a genuine bubbly daft lass.... If there was i wouldnt have been single for 2 yrs . [/u]

[blondealien]

I think there are genuine people of both sexes. They just don't know how to meet each other. They're all single because you just can't trust people.

Take me. I think I'm a nice guy. Pretty genuine. Unfortunately I have the social skills of a wooden armchair so I can't strike up new friendships!

[CONNECT]

Yes there are genuine women out there, some who don't go out often to pubs etc., but are still nice girls, so internet dating makes sense...

7 years single is a long time, and you need to start dating babes, because you may get used to being on your own, and being unable to interact on a long term basis with a lady, and the longer you leave it, the harder it will become, especially when you get a bit older...

good luck and get looking:)

[CONNECT]

[Bullet7]

It is true..... most women either turn into bunny boilers, want to much to soon, are out to get there hands on sumthing or are in love with there ex.

Before i meet another woman, im trying to create a credit check like survey for them to fill in....... any questions you think should be on it, please post. LOL.

ILL start......

1:If you were with sum1 for four weeksand he didnt contact you for 48 hours wat would you do

a: Dump him
B: Try contacting him and if no reply wait for hm to give a valid reason.
c: Stay outside his house and wait to see who he brings home - when he finally arrives with another woman go off ur head in the middle of the street until he tells u ITS HIS F*CKING COUSIN - DUMBASS BUNNY BOILER.

LOL - YES THIS HAPPENED TO ME, PLEASE EVERY ONE ADD TO THE QUESTIONS.

[missx]

Hi Ben
I feel a bit like you at the moment!so hard to find someone u really like
my friends always say i'm too picky but i'm not settling!
I never sleep round cos its just not me, I'm a totally genuine person looking for a tall,funny,caring guy that preferably doesnt smoke!
I love music,sport,art & socialising. I love to laugh and think i've a good sense of humour. I'm pretty good looking too..haha:)
my only real request is that my man is tall as i'm 5'10!
so if u are...write back please:)

[icecoldcube]

Hey missx

I'm gonna dive in and steal Ben's thunder and say hello! Sounds like you're into the same things as me, especially the music and sport. And of course the socialising! And I hate smoking, and and just over 6' tall

Fancy a chat on msn or something? Mine is stephen_clegg@hotmail.com

[bellbella]

I find it the same too, its hard to meet people that are genuine. I am 26 came out of a relationship a good while ago now, and I must agree its hard to find a good guy, where are you all hiding? Cause I would lilke to know?

[icecoldcube]

*waves hand*

I'm not hiding!