Can anyone shed some light on this?

k21 · Joined: 21 Mar 2006 Posts: 328

me and my ex are still pretty good mates, we get on well and we have a laugh.

my feelings for her kind of exploded over the weekend and i realised im still in love with her. she admitted feelings for me and we slept together but when i said lets give it another go she said she is enjoying spending time with me and also the single life.

walk away or fight for it?

Skylark · Posted: Tue May 02, 2006 4:32 pm Post subject:

don't walk....run.

ruby murray · Joined: 08 Feb 2006 Posts: 257

DangerousCurves78 · Joined: 30 Apr 2006 Posts: 11 Location: North London

Ahhhh!! The age old problem of going back to shag your ex.
Can't believe you did it.
First of all, try to remember why you broke up in the first place.
If this reason now seems trivial then maybe you should give it another try.
**NB** Your ex talks about enjoying the single life, this means, she's 1, not wanting to get back with you immediately, so please work very hard to gain my fidelity again and 2, I'm fucking other people.

Good luck xxx

p.s. keep us posted

Smurf · Posted: Tue May 02, 2006 4:34 pm Post subject:

ex's are ex's for a reason.. you'd only get back together to then remember why you broke up!!

k21 · Joined: 21 Mar 2006 Posts: 328

walk away then?

very hard to do cos even since we split we cant stop talking to each other

indie girl loopy as hell · Joined: 21 Apr 2006 Posts: 1258 Location: london

hi me and my ex have almost the exact relationship, and although i love him and always will, i dont want to be with him he finds it very difficult to deal with, i understand that it is hard for him and dont want to confuse him in anyway, but whenever we're together it seems to hard to just be friends because theres the history.

so what i'd say is try to remain friends and if its ment to be it'al happen in the future.

Smurf · Posted: Tue May 02, 2006 4:41 pm Post subject:

k21 · Joined: 21 Mar 2006 Posts: 328

see, thats the annoying thing, she talks of us in the past and how happy she was and is happy that we talking again and spending time together.

i cant be just her friend as theres always something there between us that makes me think we'd be great again together.

it hurts evrtime i say bye to her and i still think of her. not all the time but she pops in my head quite alot.

ruby murray · Joined: 08 Feb 2006 Posts: 257

Smurf · Posted: Tue May 02, 2006 4:44 pm Post subject:

prob best to walk away then matey...
doesn't sound like shes too good for your head!!
us chicks, we can be evil when it comes to boys.... she prob is very happy your seeing each other as mates again.... but if you've already asked about getting back together and got a no.... best left lie....
is hard... very hard!

bangon · Joined: 08 Feb 2006 Posts: 63873 Location: London

Skylark · Posted: Tue May 02, 2006 4:47 pm Post subject:

I'd have to agree with the smurf

maybe you need to put some distance (with no contact whatsoever) between you for a little while. Its not easy to get over someone when you see/talk to them constantly.

indie girl loopy as hell · Joined: 21 Apr 2006 Posts: 1258 Location: london

see the easiest thing to do to is just leave it dont talk to her text or ring
and in time you'l get over her.
but to be fair its probebly not at all what you want, you need to ask her outright about what she wants,deal with the answer she gives and stick to it.
its not the nicest thing to go through but it'l worki its self out in the end.

ruby murray · Joined: 08 Feb 2006 Posts: 257

bangon · Joined: 08 Feb 2006 Posts: 63873 Location: London

indie girl loopy as hell · Joined: 21 Apr 2006 Posts: 1258 Location: london

why thank you people hehe Very Happy

TonySoprano · Joined: 29 Mar 2006 Posts: 18

I've been there mate (not your ex of course). I hung on in there for months and months thinking eventually she'd want the same as me but after a while I realised that maybe she is right, we talked and agreed. That was a few years ago, now she's happy with another guy and I happy with my life but we are still great mates. Plus, now that we have both moved on, on the odd occasion when we do sleep together it's great. A glass or two of vodka, great sex, smoke a fag then we go our separate ways!! This probably hasn't helped as I know how much of a head fuck it can be. Good luck!!

bangon · Joined: 08 Feb 2006 Posts: 63873 Location: London