[DarkDagger]

Hi everyone, just joined up,
I might as well be brutally honest, I'm a fairly unattractive, unmuscular sort of guy. While I've had girlfriends before, I started posting ads in the Brighton "casual relationships" section looking for no strings sex. I wasn't even being picky! And all I get is either e-mails asking to join dating sites or complete rubbish. Am I merely looking in the wrong place, have I misunderstood the whole idea of Gumtree in this particular context as somewhere to spam and to make fools out of people? I'd rather know how Gumtree truly operates in this department rather than try to lure girls now unsuccessfully for any longer!

[Dirty Boy]

Dark, how old are you, if I may be brutally honest?

You're a boy. You want sex. You don't want hassle.

Okaaaay. See the problem here? This is what most boys, at some point in their life, would like. Thing is, you're going to find that most women ... don't.

Do you understand the concept of "supply & demand"?

It explains why there are people trying to take you for a ride.

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I'm sorry to say, unless you have something ... extra ... that you can sell (like a certain arrogant confidance) you might as well accept that "NSA sex" is simply a concept that exists only for fit blokes, and thin women.

Sorry.

You are correct in the sence that what you assumed could be, cannot.

Deal with it.

[xBelleX]

[Dirty Boy]

I stand corrected.

You are in fact right ... should any woman chose, she can find. Boys however ? ....

Supply and demand, as I said.

[xBelleX]

[DarkDagger]

Cool. If I try on here for another week with no success, fair enough. It will be just a failed experiment in my 20 year old life. I just quite liked the idea of meeting up with some different people to whom I'd see normally in my social circles and having sexytimes with them. I just thought by the law of averages there'd be some sketty women on here who'd be up for it. I know that last sentence doesn't sound great from a perspective of chivalrous behaviour as such

[xBelleX]

[Dirty Boy]

[xBelleX]

PS, what instead works is when a woman feels you are speaking directly to her, when she feels a connection, even if it just happens to be with one well formulated point in an entire ad, if it hits home with her, she'll probably reply. A generic ad with virtually no interests or personal preferences or suggestions etc, will be instantly glazed over.

[DarkDagger]

[rai~]

Jesus Christ, just go to Slapper's Alley on a Friday or Saturday night. A Brightonian should know where to find those sluts.

Just in case you have been raised in an arch-catholic household, it's West Street, between Clock Tower @ Churchill Sq and sea front.

[weered]

[uglybugly]

[breezer]

Perhaps your ad wasn't good enough? Compare it to some of the others, and wonder why anyone would write to you instead of one of the other hundreds of blokes putting ad's up. There are so many they tend to drop down off the top of the list pretty quickly too, and I don't doubt also a much much lower number of girls scanning the list as guys scanning the girls-after-guys list.

You have to mark yourself out as memorable and different (in a good way, preferably ) to have even a half-chance. Even then, you'll probably get a lot of spam replies. You could go more specific into a smaller niche by what you say, which would increase your chances with some ladies but reduce the no. who would consider it at all.

I've had one or two ad's in that section work ok (3 or 4 real non-spam responses amongst the chaff, over a week's worth of reposting it regularly to keep it visible), but it was very specific, to my particular fetish (for v.long hair, if you must know).

[David Essex]