I'm sick of being called a Benefit Scrounger!!

Lunatic · Joined: 14 Apr 2008 Posts: 206

firstly: if you feel, even just a little, tha someone does NOT to be with you, that is the main point. to let him to make you a baby is very irresponsible and, sorry for the word, but it is true, STUPID.

but, it is done and now: if you really have this attitude you described in your post, you are exactly one of those that names "benefit scrounger" are not actually pointed to. but those that are saying it do not know it. they just see you are taking benefits and you are taking them for a long time.

if you know you are not one of those that take advantages from benefit system, do not worry about it anymore. and stay focused on finding a better paid job with better understanding employer. or start to make some bussiness of your own.
good luck.

angel3 · Joined: 10 Jun 2007 Posts: 12973

Hey ushoo82 - stick with it, girl. Remember who you are and what other people think won't matter to you. Your wee girl will soon grow up. Enjoy her while you can. Are there courses you can do while you're signing on? Might as well make the most of it, I reckon.

Good luck! Razz

montyzuma · Community Moderator Joined: 25 Jul 2007 Posts: 7536

those who mind dont matter and those who matter dont mind

Lunatic · Joined: 14 Apr 2008 Posts: 206

Lunatic · Joined: 14 Apr 2008 Posts: 206

WANT

City Plumber · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 399 Location: Essex

ushoo82 · Joined: 22 Dec 2008 Posts: 37 Location: Paisley

ushoo82 · Joined: 22 Dec 2008 Posts: 37 Location: Paisley

Albion. · Joined: 29 Jun 2008 Posts: 9297

get a job and stop whining

ushoo82 · Joined: 22 Dec 2008 Posts: 37 Location: Paisley

Thats my point or are you thick!!?? Im trying to get wrk but the hours are ridiculous! And every employer expects you to be flexible which i cant because im ON MY OWN!! Wake up for gods sake!!

Albion. · Joined: 29 Jun 2008 Posts: 9297

look for part time work then - FFS - you are not unique

maybe its your attitude that is holding you back

you sound like a right stroppy mare

ushoo82 · Joined: 22 Dec 2008 Posts: 37 Location: Paisley

Im only "stroppy" cos of bein called names! Evil or Very Mad

My rent n council tax are £400 a mth so i cant afford to do part time wrk, i cant win!
Anyway iv still to hear frm those 7 employers tht i emailed, i aint holding my breath tho, actually one of them said there willing to be flexible regarding hours so this ought to be amusing!

and i obviously dnt hav an attitude when i go for interviews! Duh! Laughing

David Essex · Joined: 07 Jun 2008 Posts: 6763 Location: bradford

ushoo82 · Joined: 22 Dec 2008 Posts: 37 Location: Paisley

Thanks David!! Very Happy

City Plumber · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 399 Location: Essex

City Plumber · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 399 Location: Essex

ushoo82 · Joined: 22 Dec 2008 Posts: 37 Location: Paisley

ushoo82 · Joined: 22 Dec 2008 Posts: 37 Location: Paisley

Oh and if i ever happen to meet another guy and get pregnant then find out he doesnt love me, i'll just get the baby aborted shall i??!! Jst to save u money!!

U've no worries on that score anyway as i aint having another one!!

sagat · Joined: 26 Mar 2007 Posts: 69 Location: West side of Leeds

Just do what you can. Keep job hunting and aquiring new skills in whatever fields you like. You can get free course on the net (limited but ok). When you acquired a specific skill, you can work from home (freelance) or apply for a better job. It will take time. hardwork and determination. So goodluck

gummyshoe · Joined: 04 Jan 2009 Posts: 3

Ushoo82 - There isn't anything wrong with you going on Benefits when you need them. However, I think your attitude towards the situation you have gotten yourself in is flawed.

You want to put the blame on your boyfriend for leaving you in this situation. When in fact it takes two people to make a baby and you said it yourself you both did this to attempt to fix a relationship. So obviously you both knew it was broken. Your comment about getting rid of a baby next time so it wont cost the tax payers money - well luv, you should only be having babies if you can afford them. So perhaps you should make your decisions based on what you can afford, and not what you can expect to extract from the hard working people that pay for your benefits. And being in Love doesn't mean you should just pop a kid out. When you're in a long term stable relationship and you both want to have a child you can support financially - then it's a good idea.

Secondly, It's your responsibility to work around your work schedule and not your employers responsibility to work around yours. So if you need to have your baby in a nursery to watch your baby while you are working then that's something you need to do. There are alot of single mothers out there who work very hard and if they can do it - you can do it to.

If you keep down this path then you're going to be a benefits scrounger. You would be very wise to get educated and learn a skill and get your life together so you can contribute to society instead of sucking off it.

City Plumber · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 399 Location: Essex

emmer · Joined: 04 Jan 2009 Posts: 1

With the kind of attitude you are putting across in your posts it is wholly unsurprising that you are finding it difficult to get a job. The world does not owe you a favour whatever you seem to think. Furthermore it is understandable that you are annoyed at your ex-partner for what he has done but you are one very bitter person and I think that is something you need to get over for the sake of your daughter if nothing else.

lil_grinner · Joined: 05 Jan 2009 Posts: 2 Location: edinburgh

This irritates me......you are in EXACTLY the same position as me, with regards to your personal life. But are moaning about how unacheavable it is getting off benefits?!

My wee girl is soon to be 3. I have worked since she was 8 weeks old. My hours were over a week, but i did evenings and weekends so that i could spend as much time with her as possible. Her daddy left us when she was just over a year old. He left me with a rented flat, which we used to rely on him paying for, and a car, which he was supposed to pay for but never did.

Me and my little girl are now renting a brand new flat, I have worked in my work for 18 months doing Monday to Friday (mornings). My daughter is in Nursery 5 mornings. I have a car, I am doing an evening course at college, and do various promotional work as and when i can for extra money, and a bit of grown up chat.

I have a high school education and not much more. What you have to realise is, bitterness will get you nowhere. my ex hasn't paid a penny towards my daughters upbringing since he left (apart from a pack of nappies about a year ago, she was potty trained about 2 months beforehand, lol)

Put your efforts into doing something positive, instead of airing your problems on forums and expecting sympathy. You are not the only one who has had a hard time of it....Build a bridge and get over it. At least you have the support of his family, some of us dont even have that!!

littlemiss03 · Joined: 06 Jan 2009 Posts: 8

hi ushoo,

Sorry to hear about the situation you are in, I wouldnt even bother listening to half of these idiots.

Firstly lil_grinner, i respect what you have achieved as I know only to well what this situation is like, but you should be using your skill/ knowledge, to try to help this girl, not to verbally attack her, I dont think she is bitter, she feels she has to explain her circumstances, and guess what she doesnt!!!

The law says that she is a single parent and she does NOT have to work, so that fact that she wants to means she is not a scrounger. Oh and by the way there are some people out there who would tutt-tutt (Im not one of them) at the fact that you have left your baby to go to work from the age of 8 weeks, you would do well to remember this!!!! Some people would rather stay at home for at least the first year, instead of putting personal gain first!!!

Oh plumber, you need to stick your head down the toilet, ur mouth could do with a clean!!!! Get it through your head the girl thought she was in a stable relationship, of course its the mans fault, he decided to leave them, she didnt leave him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! oh yeah ps she was a tax payer and im sure she will pay her taxes again for a long time to come, in 20 years time when she has worked all or most of the time, will you still be raising this issue with her????? get a life, I think you work too hard!!!!!!!!

Gummyshoe anyone who lets their business head rule their heart when they are in love needs to get out more!!! And she said she has since found out he was trying to fix it she never said she knew it was broken, she said he did! Contribute to society??? Sucking the life????? Get a grip you will ALL be sucking the life out of this poor girl, were you all playground bullies, would you talk to your best friends this way????? or is it just easy to do it anonimously hiding behind a computer screen, you should all be boosting her moral, you idiots, you need confidence to get a job and what has already happened to her has knocked her confidence, the fact that she is on benefits has knocked it even more, she is probably angry about scrounger comments as she is starting to feel like one, comes on here for encouragement, and what do you all do knock her down even more, absolutely shocking!!!!!

This is my first post to this forum and i just wanted to sign up to say, stick in there, hes the loser in the end, my best wishes are with you and your daughter xxxxxx

Oh and ps who in there right minds would choose at least 16 years of 24-7 babysitting at what equates at around 50 pence an hour as a career option, there is a minimum wage in this country get a grip people.

My advice be nice, or dont bother posting at all!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

City Plumber · Joined: 28 Feb 2007 Posts: 399 Location: Essex