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DavidRyu
Joined: 22 Sep 2009
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[quote="jintyb"]David your son is very young -I wonder if his Mum is suffering from PosNatal Depression-not just the mood swings but the irrationality.
Also remembewr she may actually resent the bond you have with him especially if she is finding difficulty in bonding,feeling overwhelmed etc.
What is your/her relationship with her family-could you speak to her Mum for advice?Also a word to the Health Visitor for advice wouldn't go amiss.
I really think she needs some help.[/quote]
She is absolutely fine with everyone else and as for her mother it just seems that they want my son for themselves and couldn't care less if I was around or not! It takes a lot for me to get angry but I find myself biting my tongue all the time. I will fight for my son till the end but surely I should have some rights as well. Seeing him a couple of days a week is not enough for me if it does end up in the courts. I know it is definitely not post natal depression! I though that at first as well. She is a great mum to my son and I can see the love she has for him. He was born on the 5th of August so is nearly 2 months old now! I expect I wouldn't get him for weekends, nights, etc with him being so young?? I don't want to miss out with my son, he is my world. Its not as if we're teenagers, I'm 27 and she is 25!! |
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DavidRyu
Joined: 22 Sep 2009
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| Posted: Sun Oct 04, 2009 7:36 am Post subject: |
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| I somehow managed to put a reply to your message in the same box as yours!! |
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Bitten and smitten
Joined: 23 Feb 2009
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Location: Edinburgh
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[quote="Mavster III"] | happyni wrote: | | my son broke up with his girlfriend 2 months ago and move back home they have a 9 month old daughter he was getting to see her for few hours two days a week but now his ex is saying she has seek legal advice and she doesn`t have to let him or us as grandparents see her as we have been involved with our granddaughter from the beginning we are finding it very difficult does anyone know can she stop us all from seeing our grandchild and my son from seeing his daughter i also just found out his name is not on the birth cert if anyone knows of a similiar situation i would be grateful for any advice thanks |
If possible, approach the child’s mother or father and explain that no matter what the problems are between the parents, you as a grandparent do not intend to take sides but only wish to maintain contact with your grandchild.
However, it is frequently the case that the relationship between your daughter or son-in- law or even with your own children have broken down to such an extent that this is not practical. In those circumstances a referral to mediation is an option whereby an independent mediator will try and help you reach an agreement with the parents. Both parties must agree to mediation and it may therefore not be suitable.
If none of the above are practical or possible you may make an application to the court. Unlike parents, a grandparent does not have an automatic right to apply for a contact order and will have to apply for leave to make that application. In order to be successful the grandparent must show that they have a meaningful and important connection with the child.
Once you have been granted leave then your application for contact will be considered. Frequently this will involve the appointment of a Children and Family Court Advisory and Support Service (CAFCASS) officer to look at any welfare issues that need to be considered and to prepare a report to aid the court in coming to a decision.
If the report is favourable it is often very strongly persuasive to the parent with care but if they still will not agree then there will be a full hearing with both sides giving evidence and the court making a decision on the basis of what they feel to be in the child’s best interests. You will need to convince the court that your relationship with the grandchild significantly benefits their lives.
Once the court has made a decision that contact is in a child’s best interests they will not tolerate any effort to thwart a contact order. The powers available to the court to enforce these orders have recently been increased in such a way that makes it extremely difficult for parents to ignore them. They are therefore a very powerful way to ensure that grandparents can maintain a meaningful and fulfilling relationship with their grandchildren.
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DavidRyu
Joined: 22 Sep 2009
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| My son was born on the 5th of august this year. I am on the birth certificate. Can anyone tell me if I will be able to get my son on weekends, overnight, days out, etc. His mother and I split up 3 days ago. She is being unreasonable about access. My son is my life and I cant go 3-4 days without seeing him like she's offering. He is only 2 months old. I will fight for him till the death. |
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ushoo82
Joined: 22 Dec 2008
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Location: Paisley
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| Posted: Sat Oct 17, 2009 6:31 pm Post subject: |
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Hiya David,
I'm a single mum, my daughters dad isn't interested, i gave him as much access as he wanted at the beginning (we were on speaking terms then) but he threw it back in my face....so its his loss... to cut a long story short, i would advise you to go to a lawyer, as this is what i did re access, my ex and i were together 2 n a half yrs, weren't married and his names on the birth certificate, though iv changed my daughters surname, which he knows about.
You can request what access you want and the lawyer will write to your ex stating this but im not sure if you'd get all the days you want, think it depends on weather ur ex agreed to it, as i remember being able to pick and choose my ex's days to see my wee girl (when it got nasty!) Even then he didnt bother to show up! I'm sure dads have rights though am not sure to what extent! If you find out perhaps you could tell me for my info?
Hope this helps x |
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